Want to be Happy? Here is the Secret Ingredient!

The universe does not hear what you are saying. It feels the vibration you are offering – Abraham Hicks

People desire happiness.

So many folks I’ve encountered say to me ‘I just want to be happy’. They want a happy, healthy marriage. They want to be happy at home or in their career.

Unfortunately, the way they are living is not conducive to happiness, as happiness comes from within ourselves. Only through unlocking the cage and setting our happiness free, can we find happiness. That key is in our hand and happiness is within our own power.

Why are people so unhappy, so negative and so stressed out?

When something negative happens to an individual, albeit the stress of work or home, job loss, death of a family member, illness, financial issues, relationship struggles, negative situations and encounters in the grocery store or at the mall, moodiness or fatigue, impending health concerns or upcoming surgical procedures, sudden moves and other events that may impact us, we have a tendency to STAY with the negativity.

You think about it. You talk about it. You stress about it. You worry about it. You act angry, loud or passionate about it, until it becomes your present reality.

Even if you WANTED better for yourself, you are stuck in a downward spiral of negativity.

You bring it to the consciousness of others by talking about it for extended periods of time. Whatever the situation, YOU make sure everyone in your life knows you are suffering and YOU make sure you are putting the situation on the front burner of your life each and every day.

You are ruminating.

You can SAY you are wanting good stuff, good experiences, good relationships. You can SAY you are aligning with cycles of flow and manifestation. You can SAY you desire positive and happy experiences, freedom and authenticity.

You can say A LOT! In fact, most people do say a lot.

However, you allow your thoughts to consume you and negativity takes over the wheel.

It is the moodiness, the negative thoughts, the worry and fear, the negative feelings and the onslaught of emotions that SET your current situation into YOUR reality.

As a whole, people seek positive outcomes, but when they allow their physical and energetic space to become inundated with negativity (stress, ugliness, worry, fear, anger, negative self-talk) and their vibe is full of blame and victimization, then the response will not be one that is desired, but rather what is sent out through the negativity.



Negative thoughts, words, talk and tone.

Fear of ‘what if’.

Focusing on the drama of self or of others.

Think about standing in a line at the store.

If you dislike standing in lines because people are going to do stupid things or delay you, guess what your experience in a line will be?

You guessed it…delayed and full of other’s stupidity. Why? Because that is the very vibration you sent out!!!

So how do you get out of it?

It’s really simple, but it’s not an easy task.

No matter what you are dealing with; it could be stress, death, moving, a new life, divorce, surgery, letting go of the past, health crisis, the thoughts you think about will create how it shows up for you.

Therefore, you must think different thoughts. Positive thoughts. Simple!

Not easy.

Because your brain is conditioned to think negatively, even when you try to think positively, it will return to the well-worn trail of rumination. Only by practicing and WORKING on creating NEW thoughts and NEW experiences can we begin to override the old ways.

Through gratitude and positive journaling, we can begin to shift our old and toxic ways.

Journaling is helpful, but it’s not an end all to shifting thoughts. Why? Because writing it down doesn’t mean it will become practice, unless YOU choose to write it and read it daily until it’s a habit!

It’s not what you put down on paper or profess to release by tossing it in the bonfire of healing that counts. Those are symbolic.

It’s what YOUR mind, your thoughts and your beliefs pursue following the journal or the ritual of letting go that will create your reality.

If you think it hurts, then it hurts.

If you think it’s bad, then it’s bad.

If you believe yourself to be unworthy or old, then you are just that.

If you believe you are ugly, guess what? You will feel and become ugly.

If you think you have no power to heal or change a situation, then you absolutely do NOT have power.

If you think people are idiots and make dumb decisions, then the people in your life will be idiots and make dumb decisions.

If you feel like you are the only one that does anything to contribute at work or hike, then you will certainly become a lone wolf and others will stay away from any opportunity to help you.

You create your reality, NOT by what you say….but by what you think. Think differently, create a new reality.

If your thoughts are fear, scared, anger, disgust, hate, sadness, stress and worry, then your reality will be FULL of the same. People who reflect these elements and who mirror them in their own lives who are the same will continue to show up. Events that bring about the these types of emotions will continually be created. Situations where these elements are present will continue to manifest.

You cannot be happy living in thoughts and beliefs that are the opposite of happy.

You cannot be powerful if you believe that you are powerless.

Think for a moment about the AA creed, reminding you that you are powerless against alcohol and that you will fail! A perfect example of how we as humans give away our power by the thoughts and beliefs of others.

You cannot be free and authentic if you worry about what others think of your life.

You cannot be capable if you believe you are too old, too injured, too busy or too sick.

You cannot be around those that feed your soul on your level IF you surround or even allow yourself to be surrounded with circumstances, people, feelings and obligations that operate on a lower frequency.


It’s how it works. It’s physics.

Positive thoughts are cancelled out by negative ones. Therefore, having good thoughts and working on creating goodness in your life can be unraveled by ruminating on the negativity caused by the past.

Create what YOU WANT in life by eradicating negative thoughts like being scared, fear, dislike, drama, fighting, arguing, yelling, moodiness, depression, addiction, hate, disrespect, anxiety, powerlessness, sadness, thoughts of the past and losses or failures, comparison.

Even if it’s in humor, entertainment, or to prove a point, negativity will generate more and more negative scenarios, people and experiences, and will eventually make what you fear come true.

Negative thoughts and vibrations delay or completely stall your happiness and all the things you want.

If you desire happiness, then make it a daily practice to bring forward positive thoughts in all situations. It’s not easy, but it’s the key.

Published by NikkiAlbertVasquez

Our passion is men's, women's and couple's wellness, from being strong and independent to conquering the roadblocks that hinder valuable goals. We are here for those who are READY for CHANGE, who are WILLING to make CHANGE and who are seeking support and guidance on their journey. As a couple, we have quickly grown into a powerful team, the Viking and the Apache, helping men and women discover their own strengths, heal themselves and bring light (knowledge) into the world. It is our mission to help others reclaim their power, integrity and truth so they can heal the world!

2 thoughts on “Want to be Happy? Here is the Secret Ingredient!

  1. Our natural instincts predispose us to dwell on potential trouble (fears).
    Taking it back to the cave:
    Which causes you worry or fear: a) a beautiful flower b) a saber-toothed tiger?
    Which must you be vigilant against: a) a sunny day b) a saber-toothed tiger?
    Which can you prepare for, in anticipation of tomorrow: a) a baby’s smile b) a saber-toothed tiger attack.

    So you see, beauty may be appreciated, but is not retained in one’s mind, as it has no intrinsic value to our daily lives. Appreciation of beauty is abstract emotion.
    Your mind keeps track of all the things that keep you and your babies alive, and is vigilant as a palace guard. It listens constantly for the wolves at the door and the coo of the newborn. It keeps track of how much food is left or how much we’ll need to bring home today. It keeps an accounting for the number of children that should be present, the number of hunters we have to go forth with, the number of warriors we have to defend with, the number of horses we have for them to ride.

    In our modern world, we have no warriors attacking us, no saber-toothed tigers snatching our babies, no hunt to prepare for or winter to steel one’s self against. All of these things are reduced to ease and comfort in our modern lives, but modernity outpaced the evolution of the brain by a million years or so, so the brain still thinks it lives in a cave.
    So, brain must latch onto all the threats and accountancy it is designed for, but our world offers only those things we’d call negative stresses: the clock (the most anti-natural thing we invented), money, the checkbook. Is there food in the cupboard for dinner? Did I remember to feed the cat? What will I wear to Nancy’s wedding two months from now? What if my car repair costs more than I have? And so forth.

    Re-train your brain. You live in a modern world that is so safe that if you fell down tomorrow, lost your job and a leg and an arm and an eye and your apartment, support groups will swarm around you and take care of you. You will be warm and fed and safe.

    Depression, however, is a different subject, and a different kind of rumination.
    More on that some other time, perhaps.

    Seek peace,


    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: