We all experience moments of negativity in our present lives. It is a normal part of daily living.
Today, however, I am laying out the foundation for what it means to be a negative person. Even though most negative people have no idea they are sucking the life out of themselves and those around them, the fact is their self-loathing, depressive, negative states actually generates greater negativity, greater suffering and guess what…
additional negative people, situations and drama to manifest in their lives.
Let’s start by defining negative.
‘Negative’ basically means people, situations and attitudes that are NOT optimal or desirable. Negativity is the act of living this experience, no matter what comes your way.
Negative people constantly seem to have drama in their lives and ‘whoa is me’ dispositions. They are often victims of circumstance.
They disproportionality seem to be going through a ‘rough patch’ in their life and seek out validation from others by matching positivity with a vomitous response about their day, situation, drama, pain and bad experiences.
How are your feeling? Don’t ask! Today sucked. So in so died. I am sick. My knees hurt. Blah blah blah.
One week its their schedule, the next they are sick, the next its their spouse, then its their kid’s grades or behavior, then its their body, then its a family dispute or disagreement. Their sleep. Their joints. Their job. Their finances. Their headaches. Their drama. Their loss. Their failure. Their grown children’s choices.
It never ends!
Do NOT get this confused with a SITUATIONAL experience that can be challenging or render an individual ‘down and out’ for a time. Everyone experiences situations that are are not optimal, nor are they desirous.
In fact, positive people experience the same shit as the negative nellies (divorce, death, loss of job, injury, chronic pain, unmet expectations). However, it’s the response to the situation that is the DEFINING factor between drama queens and fucking goddesses!
Negative people do not speak their truth. They speak their drama.
People who are negative complain about others constantly. They Yell. Bitch. Gripe. Moan. Blame. Deflect. Groan. Moreover, they get butthurt if others do not give into them, validate them, play into their victimization or their excuses, or show instant empathy.
Negative people HATE it and are easily triggered emotionally when strong, truthful and positive people do not agree with their drama or do not send ‘prayers’ or do not feel sorry for them. A truly negative individual will pick apart your words in a defensive manner as if you offended them by saying something simple or honest as a solution. They will express offense. They will act as though their behavior was innocent and you are being hurtful or insensitive.
‘I’m depressed. My husband cheated on me. I’m left doing everything alone. I’m having to single parent and work and go to school’
🤷🏿♂️ And like thousands before you and thousands after you who have survived these normal experiences, how will YOU meet the challenge?
Of course, when you are a person who can overcome, find growth in the darkness, direction in the fog and you express to these negative individuals they hold the power and actually create their own drama, you will be met with utter disbelief and even labels like ‘you are cold’.
Nope. Just honest. Integrity. Truthful.
Remember….the negative situations you seem to have building up around you? Those are all of your own manifestation.
You chose them through your own energies and how you live your life through your excuses, blaming, arguing and playing constant victim. Being treated like shit by a partner? Depressed? Feel like no one ever listens to you? Overwhelmed with life? Cannot get ahead no matter how much you try?
Are you always on the ‘defense’?
The highway may flood while your are traveling. If it does, it’s HOW you meet this challenge that defines who you are at your core. Putting emotion into one possibility is FEAR and living in fear is negative. However, embracing a situation head on, honoring any negative emotion by embracing it and then meeting the challenge?
That’s the goddess way! The survivor’s path. The queen’s strategy.
Your power reveals whether or not you become a ranting stressed out lunatic OR you become a problem solver AND end the day on a healthy and positive note.
People do not genuinely care about your drama, especially if you are the one who is continuing to complain about the same shit over and over, ear raping those around you without showing your ability to change, conquer, overcome or stand up. They simply feel obligated to share sympathies or may be genuinely empathetic to an isolated situation.
However, the chronic drama in your life might just be the drama that you are creating.