Perspective is everything. It is literally the view you have of life. For some, it’s rigid and narrow. For others, it’s malleable and shifts depending upon a situation.
Your perspective will not be the same as your husband’s, your friend’s, your child’s or even a stranger’s perspective.
Yours is not RIGHT.
Theirs is not WRONG.
It’s perspective and is valid.
The problem with perspective is that people get hung up on their own drama, triggers, views, issues, situations, problems….and fail to see it all from someone else’s heart, body, mind and soul.
They begin to JUDGE others for not agreeing with them….instead of giving credence to perspective and simply waking away, living their best life.
They begin to hold ex-parte conversations and expend energies on what someone else is doing, saying and how they are living instead of living.
Look at relationships, divorce and separation.
It’s said that in order to HEAL from a divorce/separation, it’s necessary to NOT SPEAK, TEXT, CALL or engage in any conversations or interactions with the exception of necessary and those relative to legalities (ie…kids) for half of the total time the two individuals spent together.
Married 20 years? No contact for 10 years.
Dating for 2 years? No contact for 1 year.
Living together for 6 years? Don’t text/call/comment on for 3 years.
The perspective here is that this rule applies to healing the self and everyone involved. Not simply how HE or SHE did YOU wrong and the world should be aware….honestly, the world doesn’t care about your past and your drama.
Perspective isn’t only about YOU, but about all who are directly and indirectly involved with you as well.
Your world may be very much self-absorbed and selfish with a POOR ME VICTIM mentality, but the perspective of others plays a huge role in the equation as well.
How do your kids view you? How do your coworkers view you? How does your close circle view you? What about those at the gym? The store?
Do people run and hide when you are around?
When you stop looking at others and judging situations from your own perspective, something amazing happens. You begin to see the entirety of the connections we have to one another.
The WHOLE picture of living our best life.