Do you have anxiety about a specific situation in your life?
Are you fearful of losing something like your job, your spouse, your business, or your home?
Do you dread your children growing up and moving away?
Are you emotionally consumed with memories and tears over how something use to be or a home you grew up in?
Do you feel emotional because a certain person in your life is not doing what they are suppose to be doing?
You are attached!
When you are ‘attached’ to something, you experience deep suffering when it FAILS to go a certain way.
Attachment is the GREATEST source of disharmony in our lives. It destroys our peace, harmony and flow.
Desire towards certain people, expectations of how people ‘should’ behave, act, respond and how situations ‘should’ unfold are all examples of attachment.
The stronger the attachment, the greater the disappointment, frustration, anxiety, fear and suffering experienced.
How did you respond when your first born child moved away or went off to college? How devastated were you after your divorce? How angry did you get when your dad remarried or dated after your mom’s death?
Years ago, I had a dream of owning my own space to train women the way I believed they deserved to be trained. I was so attached to this dream that I suffered both emotionally and physically to try and achieve it, even when it didn’t manifest. I tried so hard to put in my ideas and opinions, but I’m eventually my dream was taken over by another and I was crushed!
Today, I am conscious of my training space and more understanding of ‘desire’ and ‘expectation’, allowing each day to unfold and flow as it is intended. I work daily to create the possibility of which is mine.
I have been known to attach to a notion of how I ‘should’ be treated by people, with nothing but love and kindness. An expectation! Unfortunately, this isn’t reality and somehow, I allow my heart to remain open and flow with abundance for those in my spiritual circle!
Expectations of other’s behaviors are a key sign that you hold an attachment to them or a belief system.
You ‘expect’ your wife to know what you need. You ‘expect’ your partner to value you and your opinions. You ‘expect’ your husband to cook dinner while you are at the gym. You ‘expect’ your son to call home on holidays and birthdays. You ‘expect’ your neighbor to cut their grass. You ‘expect’ others to be sensitive to homeless people. You ‘expect’ your boss to value you in your job and promote you. You ‘expect’ your niece to attend family functions. You ‘expect’ others to follow a certain line of behaviors, energies and outcomes!
YOU, my dear, are the one in need of healing!!!
You must learn the art of detachment. All of the energies you deposit into others, expected outcomes and disappointments is purely intended to put into yourself.
Things that define our self-worth, our youth, our relationships, our careers, our intelligence, pets, body, our external values based upon societal/parental agreements….these are all attachments.
As we discover more PEACE and STABILITY within our own selves, we will find that those attachments to others begin to fade away. We no longer get upset over what other people say and do/don’t do.
Even during times of change, and my loves, change WILL happen, you will find a sense of unconditional love and acceptance because you have learned to HONOR the light in all living things in all stages.
Today, set your intentions on detachment! Whatever brings your heart heaviness, disconnect from the expectation or desire of what you WANT and focus on what you HAVE within yourself!
If you desire companionship to listen to what you have to say, write it out! If you expect a card or cake on your birthday, buy yourself the one you LOVE! If you want someone to talk to you, create an abundance of friendships. You hold within yourself the full power to create what you desire but you do NOT hold the power to MAKE someone else
Align yourself with your heart and create the energies to provide for yourself.
Detachment from all others creates abundance and unconditional love.